When someone you care about is experiencing gender-based violence (GBV), it’s hard to know what to do. You might feel helpless, frustrated, scared, or unsure of how to even begin a conversation.
But here’s what we want you to know: your support can make a difference.
You don’t have to have all the answers. You just have to show up with compassion, patience, and belief.
This guide is here to help.
What Is Gender-Based Violence?
Gender-based violence (GBV) is any harm or abuse that happens because of someone’s gender, gender identity, or perceived gender role. It can be physical, emotional, sexual, psychological, or financial—and often happens behind closed doors.
At Artemis Huron, we see every day that violence doesn’t always look like bruises.
It can look like isolation. Like fear. Like control. Like silence.
Five Things You Can Do to Help
1. Believe Them
If someone tells you they’re experiencing violence—or even hints at it—start by believing them.
Don’t question, minimize, or try to “fix” their situation right away.
Just say something like:
“Thank you for trusting me. I believe you. You don’t deserve this.”
That validation can be the first step toward safety.
2. Don’t Push Them to Leave
It might seem obvious (“Just leave!”), but leaving can actually be one of the most dangerous times for someone experiencing GBV. There may be children, financial barriers, trauma bonding, fear, or nowhere else to go.
Instead of rushing the decision, say:
“I’ll support you no matter what you decide. I’m here.”
3. Let Them Set the Pace
Your loved one may not be ready to talk. Or they may talk in circles, go back and forth, or change their mind. That’s normal.
Offer a steady presence, not pressure.
Respect their privacy. And check in without judgment.
4. Offer Practical Support
Depending on what they’re going through, you might be able to help with:
- Giving them our 24/7 Support Line number: 1-800-265-5506
- Offering a safe place to store copies of important documents
- Babysitting during court dates or counselling
- Helping them create a safety plan (we can help with this too)
If you’re not sure what to say or do, that’s okay—you can call Artemis Huron too.
We support friends and family members, not just survivors.
5. Know That You’re Not Alone Either
Supporting someone through gender-based violence can be overwhelming. You might feel scared, burnt out, or unsure if you’re doing the right thing.
That’s why Artemis Huron is here for you, too.
You can call us at 1-800-265-5506 for information, reassurance, or just someone to talk to.
We’ll listen. We’ll guide you. We’ll help you figure out what to do next.
You Don’t Have to Be an Expert — You Just Have to Care
You don’t need the perfect words.
You don’t need a magic solution.
You just need to show up — consistently, gently, and without judgment.
If you or someone you care about needs support, call Artemis Huron anytime: 1-800-265-5506
You are not alone. And neither are they.